Recently a survey not too surprisingly revealed more and more married couples are engaging in spanking as a kinky addition to their marital sexual practices. In a questionnaire completed by over four hundred married couples, a full 77% said they had discussed wife spanking as both a pleasurable and sometimes quite necessary disciplinary practice. And of those who said that they had considered it, 54% said that the husband was also willing to allow the wife to be spanked by another man or woman if they were allowed to watch or direct the action.
Why does come as no great surprise to anyone – especially those into spanking and discipline?
I guess it just means more and more people are coming to realize (or if what I believe is true – willing to admit to it) that spanking is a necessary and mandatory part of the marriage experience!
Recently I attended a symposium in Europe on erotic writing, held at the prestigious Teufeliche Institute in Bonn. Again and again I heard the same clichés repeated ad nausea about the differences in writing erotic material for men and women. The common belief is that women want long flowery passages and complex characters and men just wanted simple sex scenes with lots of graphic and explicit action. Not true! I know many of my female readers love the juiciest and most detailed descriptions of sexual acts and that many of my male readers like characters that do more than just tear off each others clothes and get to it within the first two paragraphs.
My own approach, or at least what I try to do, is to provide a good mixture of both, because after all good sex without a good story is nothing more than a blow-by-blow description of a physical act without any emotional overtones – which are really what makes any sexual encounter exciting, right? In other words, everyone loves a good quickie but passion comes from the burning emotional desire and gratification that physical love delivers. And of course we all want that shattering climax that the completion of our characters interaction provides!
In other words, without the steak there is no sizzle!